In some circles divorce is associated with all things evil and thought of only as sinful.
And it only follows that if you happen to be divorced, or experienced it indirectly, you’re painted with the same brush. You’re tainted! Not always with the evil of divorce but definitely with the damage.
I’ve never heard tainted expressed audibly but condescending mannerisms have a way of saying what words never could.
Of course, those who think divorce is evil/sinful/only-wrong, must work hard to prove their point and one category of individual featured in the debate often are children. The argument is simple.
Children suffer irreparably in a divorce!”
And the logic is obvious. If divorce is only evil and the outcome is always damaging to children, then it only follows that not getting a divorce is the best way to safeguard kids.
That is nonsense, of course, but it makes a great emotional argument. Who in their right mind would do anything to hurt a child.
We could throw mud back and forth arguing the point, without resolution, but maybe the best way to pursue the answer is let the kids speak. Specifically the kids who live in a divorced situation.
One child you should listen to first is Azka Corbuzier whose parents divorced when he was six. He is almost nine now and just posted a YouTube video about his experience.
Out of the mouths of babes!
Azka’s video illustrates the truth that divorce doesn’t have to be negative for the partners, and in some cases can be positive for the kids.
When you target children as the reason not to get divorced, you are suggesting they may be the reason for it, at least in their minds.
Thanks to Vardags Blog for sharing the video. I might not have seen it otherwise.